Tips on how to create a beautiful, sacred and non-traditional baby ceremony
I wanted to do something special for our baby girl and a traditional baby shower or even a “sprinkle” didn’t feel right. I wasn’t sure what the answer was, but I began meditating about it. One day, the universe introduced me to a beautiful and extremely talented musician, Monique Benabou, during a Soulciété event. As I was sharing my admiration for her music we somehow got on the topic of baby blessings and baby ceremonies. After our discussion, I walked away knowing that this was exactly the type of non-traditional event I wanted to create to celebrate our baby girl.
It was a tough decision but Gina and I decided to create this ceremony on our own, so we started researching online and learning as much as we could about hosting this type of event. I found all different types of rituals and blessings that you could incorporate into the day and selected my favorites. Then we created a plan and a schedule and got to work.
The ceremony was truly a beautiful event that filled everyone’s hearts with so much love. I was so moved by the experience that I felt a strong desire to not only share the details of my ceremony but some tips on how you too can create a non-traditional and sacred event for your baby. I hope this acts as a useful guide and also inspires as many parents as possible to think beyond the typical showers with games and gifts and more on how to create a conscious space for our children as they enter this world.
I decided to host the baby ceremony in our home. To me, it was the best place to not only experience the event but also create intentional energy in the space we will live with the little girl. You could also host these types of events outside of your home, but I would recommend a location that is intimate and quiet.
A baby ceremony is sacred and as a result is typically reserved for your closest friends and family members. The number you invite really depends on the types of rituals you choose as well as how much space the location can accommodate comfortably. For example, if several rituals require each guest to speak or participate at some level, you might only choose 1-2 rituals and have to require a time limit per guest. Navigating this is tricky especially when people are opening their hearts with a prayer or an offering.
Personally, I decided on 13 guests because it is very auspicious. The combination of numbers 1 and 3, angel number 13, is a sign from your angels your are connected to the ascended masters and their ability to help you manifest your desires. This is also why I chose the ceremony to take place on April 13th.
In addition, I wanted to extend the invitation to my friends and family that are outside of Los Angeles. Using the online video tool, Skype, these guests were able to join the ceremony from the comfort of their homes.
Since you will be celebrating in a non-traditional way it is important to share a bit more details about the event and what to expect. We sent the invitations via paperless post a little more than four weeks prior to the event and added a personal note (provided below) with background information on a baby ceremony and special requests for the altar ritual. We also sent a follow up message regarding parking options as well as a suggested dress code (white or lighter colors) to keep the ceremony sacred.
dress, decor and photography
Since the guests were asked to wear white or lighter colors, I wanted to stand out for the ceremony in my fave color - pink. I found my dress on Amazon and was thrilled it fit true to size (I am wearing a size small). Plus, I really loved the way it popped in all the photos.
It was my friend Gina’s idea to wear a flower crown and I am so glad I took her advice. It was a beautiful touch which actually made me feel like a Goddess. I discovered a family owned floral shop in Santa Monica, Sharon Flower Design LA and it was a pleasure working with the owner, Sharon. I sent her some photos from Instagram for inspiration and she created a beautiful crown which was perfect for the overall aesthetics of the ceremony.
I also decided to get a few flower arrangements to place around the house to add a feminine touch. Sharon did a great job matching the crown with the arrangements so everything looked cohesive.
photographer and Balloon arch
Amazing how the universe works. I was busy planning my baby ceremony and in the back of my mind still trying to sort out the best photographer for the event. I was presented an unexpected solution during the Moms On Maternity event in March, when I was introduced to Chloe Atnip Photograhy (Lights Camera Baby) and Creative Balloon Designs. Both generously offered to sponsor the event and I was thrilled.
I could not have been happier with our photographer, Dawn, and the memories she was able to capture during the ceremony. I highly recommend having a professional photographer at your event so you can keep the memories and even have them printed on canvas for the babies room.
In addition, having an extra touch for the photograph station, like this magnificent balloon arch, is really important. Not only for your guests to have fun but it will add a beautiful touch to the memories you keep forever. Personally, I fell so much in love with our custom balloon arch that it is still up at our house and I am not sure when I will take it down.
gifts and cards table
I decided to turn my desk in the kitchen / living area into the gifts and card table. And I bought a light up sign with letters from the local 99 cent store and placed it on the table so guests would know what the table was for.
Rituals and experiences
There are so many beautiful rituals or special elements you can add to create a sacred experience for you and your guests. You can find so much information online or in books, such as Blessingways. There were four main rituals I selected and a few experiences we added that helped create a sacred space for the ceremony.
the entrance experience
As guests entered our house, they were welcomed with a letter board sign, asked to wash their hands in a rose water bath and to choose a card from The Goddess Guidance Oracle deck to hold onto for later.
mocktails, nibbles and mingle experience
After the entrance experience, guests joined us in our open living area where they were invited to try a delicious mocktail sponsored by Dry Soda - our two options included a Sparkling Lavender Lemonade or Cucumber Berry Sorbet Float.
For nibbles we had a delicious fruit, nut, meat and cheese platter created by Gina’s husband. We also served crackers, mixed nuts, and more fruit.
For dessert we had a beautiful and decadent Coconut Cream cake that guests could enjoy with some bubbles.
ritual 1: Invocation and reading cards
After about 30 minutes of mingling we called everyone to sit down in a circle on the floor on cushions provided so we could begin the ceremony. A dear friend of mine, and my spiritual coach, Dr. Erin, blessed the the ceremony with a beautiful and heartfelt invocation. I then expressed my gratitude for everyone who was surrounding me in the circle and introduced each guest by sharing how we met.
After introductions, each guest was asked to read their card and share how it resonated with them. It was amazing to witness first hand the power of these cards, as everyone had a deep connection to the card they pulled. My card was “Aeracura” or blossoming. The message was “you are just getting started, so have patience with yourself and the process, and do not give up.” It was fitting on many levels - parenting, career, my spiritual journey - etc.
ritual 2: setting intentions and the altar blessing
There are many ways you can achieve this ritual, depending on your overall spiritual beliefs. I decided to find inspiration in the overall process and implement what felt right and what I was most attracted to.
For this part of the ceremony, guests (in person and joining by Skype) were asked in advance (see invitation) to bring a small gift for the blessing (e.g. a crystal, feather, poem, etc). My husband, AKA the 3D Guy, designed and 3D printed the altar in advance of the ceremony and it was in the shape of a heart. During the ritual, guests were asked to share the gift with the circle and the meaning or intention behind it. They were then asked to place it on the altar and light a candle to preserve the intention.
My one regret of the afternoon, was not recording this part of the ceremony. Everyone’s gifts and intentions were so beautiful and meaningful, that I wish I had a video to share with baby girl Kyttanen one day. Of course I have the memories - the altar with all the gifts and great photographs - so I know it will remain in my heart forever.
ritual 3: create a dreamcatcher
Due to my Native American background, I wanted to incorporate an experience typical of this culture. I personally love Dreamcatchers and what they stand for, so it was fitting to include in our baby ceremony.
I bought a DIY dreamcatcher kit on Etsy and guests were asked to help create the Dreamcatcher which will hang by baby girl Kyttanen’s bassinet. The guests measured my belly for the ribbon length and wrote sweet messages on the ribbon. I had purchased metallic colored markers and placed them on the table for them to use.
ritual 4: benediction and cacao ceremony
As a way to close and bless the baby ceremony, I decided to do a closing cacao ceremony - a unique way for everyone to connect with each other in an open-hearted environment. Sharing cacao brings us into the same energetic frequency; we each carry unique medicine and messages for each other and thus this experience can be known as a way for the body, mind and spirit to heal.
I also asked Dr. Erin to do a closing benediction for the ceremony as a way to set forth in the universe, the intentions declared during the ceremony.
I wanted to provide the guests with a special multi-sensory experience that they could indulge in after the ceremony as a reminder of the baby ceremony and our time together. There were 4 gifts included in each bag:
My friend and co-host, Gina, had the idea that people would take home the candle they lit during the altar experience. The idea is that they will light the candle and say a small prayer on the day I go into labor. Gina has collected everyone’s cell numbers and will send a group text on labor day.
a homemade cooke with a personalized logo
A friend of mine and small business owner of Mollie B Cookies, sponsored the event with her latest recipe “Chocolate Obsession!” These cookies were so divine - just the right crisp on the outside and gooey goodness on the inside. Everyone was raving about them.
handmade soap with a personalized logo
I love all natural handmade soap so when I came across these gems, infused with Sea Salt and Peppermit, I knew it was a perfect addition to the gift bag.
Breast elixir by madflowers
A friend and Lady Boss Mama, Terah Tidy, is owner of Glamifornia, a beauty and style lounge nestled in the beautiful Malibu, California. She is creator of the product line Madflowers.
Tara kindly provided all the guests with the MadFlowers Breast Elixir, because our “tatas” (her word for breasts) are our girlfriends. When we neglect them it can be harmful to our health and soul. Thus it is important to rub them to release any toxins from our bodies. The MadFlowers Breast Elixir is a magical blend of seven essential oils that regenerate and firm breasts for a perky profile. Tara provided the below message to the guests:
“When Laura is in labor and you are lighting your candle, you can rub this magical elixir on your “tatas” as a way for us all to release any negative energy and send positive vibes and support to mama and baby.”
My husband and I were so touched by the thoughtful contributions of sponsors, friends and family. The day was truly an experience I will remember and hold close to my heart forever.
I cannot help but be in awe thinking how blessed this little girl is to be entering the world with so many beautiful gifts and intentions which encourage her to stay true to her higher self and follow her passions. My hope is that she has more wisdom and consciousness than I did at a young age, which supports and guides her along her journey through life.
And I hope any pregnant mama reading this has found my story inspirational for creating their own baby ceremony. Feel free to leave your comments below and even share this article within your tribe of mama friends.
P.S. A special note of thanks