7 reasons to follow your heart
Have you ever been faced with a situation where your head and your heart were telling you two different things? If you are anything like me, not only does it happen all the time, it can be super confusing!
A few years ago a situation like this occurred and it was probably one of the most challenging moments I have been confronted with on a personal level. I had just been transferred to Amsterdam for my job. I was super excited to start a new adventure and to experience living abroad.
It will happen when you aren’t looking for it!
As I was about to embark on this new journey I fell in love and became engaged. This love was quick and completely unexpected. It happened to be with someone who was in my life for quite some time and whom I had a great friendship with. Over the course of a few months things heated up and our friendship changed into a relationship.
Timing is everything!
Although there was a deep connection between us, I was overwhelmed with all the things going on in my life at the same time. And even though I said “yes” to the proposal, somewhere deep inside of me I sensed it was not the right time.
Trust your instincts, intuition doesn’t lie.
When you’re sensing something but your head gets in the way…it is only a matter of time before the universe will make sure you find the clarity you need. This may not appear in the most convenient way. In fact, usually you will be faced with a decision or a dilemma which forces you completely outside of your comfort zone which makes you want to hide or go with the easiest solution. This test is important to pay attention to!
We don’t meet people by accident, they are meant to cross our path for a reason!
In my case, the universe introduced me to another guy. He was completely unlike anyone I had ever met before. Truthfully when I was first introduced to him, I thought he was arrogant and somewhat of an asshole (pardon my French).
First impressions are important, but everyone deserves a second chance.
It would seem that our paths were meant to cross several times after this initial meeting. And after a short period I realized that this guy was more interesting than I had given him credit for.
Decisions are the hardest thing to make, especially when it is a choice between where you should be and where you want to be.
As our friendship developed I realized one day that we had more in common, regarding future goals and ambitions, than I had with my current fiancée. This discovery was confronting, confusing and super uncomfortable. And it also meant that I had to make a decision.
There are generally two ways you can respond in this type of situation: face it head on or try to ignore it hoping that it will go away. Both responses have different consequences.
This was a very difficult decision and it was one that I did not take lightly. But in the end, we don’t choose who we fall in love with. There is nothing you can do but listen to your heart and go with the flow. You must be honest to yourself and also the people around you. When I made the decision, I knew I would lose a great friend and someone I cared about very deeply. And I would be lying if I didn’t say that my heart was torn for quite some time after the decision was made.
Sometimes it’s very hard to move on, but once you move on, you realize it was the best decision!
In the end, it all worked out for the best. My ex went on to marry someone else, live in another country and have a baby only a year after we broke up. As for me, I took my time with the new relationship. And after almost five (5) years together we got married last October and we just had our first child. I do not speak with my ex but I hope that one day we may be able to.
I hope this encourages you to follow your heart and not do what is “expected” of you or take the easy way out. When you are true to yourself, you are happy and that is extremely good for your health!