How to let go of the past in order to create new relationships
Have you heard the saying:
“The best relationships usually begin unexpectedly.”
This is something that I feel has so much meaning and truth. Do you remember the cartoon Sylvester and Tweety? Basically Sylvester, a tall black and white cat, is constantly finding ways to catch Tweety, a tiny yellow bird, so he can eat him!
The cartoon is something I watched a lot growing up and it sent the message that cats and birds just can't be friends. But actually I truly believe that Sylvester and Tweety were secretly friends or at least frienemies. But for a lot of people this is not expected!
Recently Xena, our adorable grey and white cat, has made a friend with a bird! Yes a bird!! Honestly, it is the cutest thing ever! The bird comes to our balcony every morning and sits there waiting for Xena, anxiously chirping.
Once I open the curtains, Xena starts making this tiny crying noise with her tail happily wagging as if she is super excited to see this bird.
So it made me wonder, why can't cats and birds be friends? Although instinctual they both sense they should be enemies, there is this strong curiosity which creates a magical relationship and is completely unexpected!
One of our most powerful senses is our memories. This particular event has triggered many memories for me on how I have actually made some of my friendships and how if I would have let my fear or insecurities win, I might not have these friends today.
Most of my friendships have been created out of unusual circumstances and were completely unexpected. I have made friends at the gym during an underground explosion, during a meet up event where I was just hoping to get out of the house, during yoga nights, or even during business opportunity meetings and conferences.
So why do we sometimes feel so much anxiety around meeting new people? Would we still meet certain people that make a huge impact on us even if we weren’t looking for new friendships? What would happen if we closed ourselves off from talking to new people just because of our past?
If we are not careful, a lot of our past can unfortunately create assumptions or allow ourselves to draw unnecessary conclusions. Imagine if you had a hard time in school when you were younger and you were bullied or picked on by a certain group. How would this impact you if you were faced with this kind of group again. Would you avoid the group and say "they are not people I want to be friends with anyway?"
When I was around 12 years old, my dad was asked to transfer to a different state for his job. I was so emotional about this decision; I did not want to leave behind my friends! What made matters worse is that I couldn't seem to fit in to my new environment.
There was this group of "popular" girls who were very mean to me and would call me names or make fun of the way I said certain words. In other words, I was bullied! There were a lot of days that I didn't even want to go to school! Have you ever felt this way?
For a period of time, these experiences had an impact on how I approached new friendships. I was very cautious, not able to really be myself, and just overall skeptical of making friends with certain types of girls. I am so happy that I have overcome these fears and let go of my past!
Today, I am so thankful for the beautiful friendships I have made, most of which are completely unexpected yet super strong!
Therefore, I encourage everyone reading this story to talk to someone new today, smile at strangers and be open to new friendships and opportunities! Go ahead let go of your past and be fearless! For the outcome may be much greater than you were ever hoping for!