Tips from daddy for handling sleepless nights with newborns
I am a great sleeper. I can even sleep standing up! This has never changed. What has changed is when I am actually falling asleep or how much sleep I am getting per night.
Gone are the clubbing days where you crawled into bed at 5 a.m. and were lucky if you were able to get your clothes off first. Today it seems that by 9 p.m. I am already yawning.
Now I don’t know whether this is due to pushing myself so hard with work or the fact that I just became a father. Or maybe both? But one thing is for sure - tired is the new normal. However, being tired is different than I had initially expected.
For one, when I thought about becoming a father my biggest fear was that I would be so sleep deprived that I could not function anymore.
My second fear was that Laura would be as tired as me and we would have fights during the night on who would get up to clean the diapers or rock the baby back to sleep.
I soon realized that Aiden has my genes for sleeping. Majority of the time he sleeps through the night and we have to wake him up for a feeding (yes I know some parents hate us right now but I guess we are just blessed when it comes to his sleeping patterns)!
So both of my fears have turned out to be myths. I still sleep through most of the nights and the times I need to wake up for cleaning the diapers, there has never been a discussion on whose turn it is. Instead it is like an internal competition between us - which parent will be more available to their new baby!
The reality is that having a fight over something like "whose turn is it" is just an oxymoron. It would sound pretty silly for me to even consider counting scores, since my wife has not only carried the baby in her belly for 9 months but she has endured the pain of giving birth, has given up most of her independence to take care of a new human being and will continue to do this for at least another year while she is breastfeeding him (which currently is 8 times a day)! So I guess its okay for me to pitch in and change the diapers a few times during a 24 hour cycle.
So even though I may be a bit sleepless in LA, I wouldn't change it for anything in the world! Being a dad is one of the best gifts life has offered me and I want to be awake for as much of it as possible.