Why you should slow down and enjoy every moment
I recently read the article "When you can stop yourself from multitasking your brain will start to change", by Nick Darlington. He suggests that by slowing down and being more in the moment you will improve your ability to focus and ultimately be more productive. This is because you will stop focusing on the small things and instead focus on the important ones.
After reading this article, I began to reflect on my own situation as a mompreneur and I thought to myself "is he really asking me to stop multi-tasking?"
I know you moms understand why this idea perplexed me. There are bills to pay, clothes to wash, groceries to be bought, breastfeeding duties, diaper changes, appointments with clients, a business to run, mouths to be fed, a house to be cleaned and wait I forgot what else I have to do...
Yet lately I have to admit that I've been feeling guilty about not being more present with my 4-week old son, Aiden. I only took 4 days off in the hospital before jumping back into work. And although I am super blessed to be able to work from home and this allows for major flexibility, I find myself having a hard time slowing down to just be with him. Even when I am breastfeeding I am attached to my phone trying to get work done.
It is actually really hard in today's world to slow down. We are constantly bombarded with interruptions and distractions which create confusion for our brain. For example, as I am writing this post there are both internal and external interruptions. My mind is wondering how long I will have before Aiden wakes up crying. The main concern for me is what will I be able to accomplish before he does. And the computer is constantly alerting me to new emails or Facebook posts. So I am struggling to keep writing since I have a nagging need to stop what I am doing to see what messages are coming in.
After a few days of letting this article sink in and feeling overwhelmed with all the things I have on my plate, I started to realize this guy Nick has a point. In fact, I began to make the connection to the research I had done on mindfulness when I was starting my own company, KERA. At the time I was researching the connection between slowing down while eating and taste. What I discovered was that there is not only a link to taste but many other benefits, including overcoming eating disorders.
If slowing down is so important for our health why does it seem there are constantly new products introduced on the market which allow us to multi-task and lead a busier lifestyle? Case in point, I was recently watching a new Netflix series called "Cooked" by Michael Pallan where he talks about how even though there is a huge popularity of cooking shows he has found that the more people watch, the less they actually cook.
So here are my questions for you:
- "What is important in your life right now and how much time do you spend truly enjoying it?"
- "What would it take to re-prioritize so that you can spend more time on it?"
- "How can you become more aware so you can stop yourself when you start to focus on the small things that don't really add value to your life?"
My intention for the coming days is to spend more time enjoying and playing with Aiden. After all they say that the first 3 years are the most important for the brain development. So I would like to put more focus on this critical period in his life.
I will do this by not allowing myself to get distracted with interruptions that can be dealt with later. And yes this means not looking at my phone every second! I suppose if I can do it - you can too!
Ultimately let's try to lead a life where we can breathe in more of the important moments and let go of the small things that truly don't serve any purpose to our health and well-being.